That day when you finally know in your heart that your child with Autism will not be a doctor or lawyer is brutal. When the best we can hope for is happiness, it is brutal. When you’re taking your 200 pound 25 year old man to the Lego aisle at Target and people are whispering, it’s brutal. There’s nothing easy about being an Autism mom. Mourning what could have been is a tough space to live in. So I take it day by day and celebrate the miracles that I’m privileged to witness every single day as an Autism mom. 💙
OMGosh!!! This is SO true!! It’s such an isolating thing. No one seems to understand or even cares to understand…not even my son’s ESE teacher. Thank you for sharing the real and honest moments and being so vulnerable. I’m sorry so many people have been rude and unsupportive.
I feel this so much. My sons are both on the spectrum. One more so than the other. I worry about both of their futures. I hate that I am so envious of parents of neurotypical children. I hate that I cannot and may never have a genuine conversation with my youngest son. I worry about them being bullied and isolated because they act and behave in ways others find weird. I don't know what kind of future they will have, and it scares me. Today is my oldest's 14th birthday, and necessarily I look at where he is and where he might go, and it is all questions....even more so for my youngest who is very much like Cooper.
At the end of this evaluation, they are both happy and they are both progressing in their way, and this gives me hope....At least the hope of a parent that has had to accept the reality of who and what they are.
Your honesty is refreshing. I'm autistic AND a mother to an autistic child, and frankly tired of these binaries. Autism is hard AND amazing—sometimes all in the space of a single day. I wish the shaming of parents would stop. We are all human with capacity to feel more than a single range of emotions.
Thank you for such raw honesty.As a Speech Language Therapist who sees autistic children in my practice I have an outsiders view but the pain grief despair is so valid and real Sometimes I don’t know what to do and professional doing can cause more hurt and pain at times. I know you will have moved through this as all humans do and that you are a coping brilliant Mum . Its OK to feel this is beyond you. I feel it every day in my work and then we get on with the little steps along the way and those little steps add up to life Arohanui
That day when you finally know in your heart that your child with Autism will not be a doctor or lawyer is brutal. When the best we can hope for is happiness, it is brutal. When you’re taking your 200 pound 25 year old man to the Lego aisle at Target and people are whispering, it’s brutal. There’s nothing easy about being an Autism mom. Mourning what could have been is a tough space to live in. So I take it day by day and celebrate the miracles that I’m privileged to witness every single day as an Autism mom. 💙
OMGosh!!! This is SO true!! It’s such an isolating thing. No one seems to understand or even cares to understand…not even my son’s ESE teacher. Thank you for sharing the real and honest moments and being so vulnerable. I’m sorry so many people have been rude and unsupportive.
I feel this so much. My sons are both on the spectrum. One more so than the other. I worry about both of their futures. I hate that I am so envious of parents of neurotypical children. I hate that I cannot and may never have a genuine conversation with my youngest son. I worry about them being bullied and isolated because they act and behave in ways others find weird. I don't know what kind of future they will have, and it scares me. Today is my oldest's 14th birthday, and necessarily I look at where he is and where he might go, and it is all questions....even more so for my youngest who is very much like Cooper.
At the end of this evaluation, they are both happy and they are both progressing in their way, and this gives me hope....At least the hope of a parent that has had to accept the reality of who and what they are.
Your honesty is refreshing. I'm autistic AND a mother to an autistic child, and frankly tired of these binaries. Autism is hard AND amazing—sometimes all in the space of a single day. I wish the shaming of parents would stop. We are all human with capacity to feel more than a single range of emotions.
Thank you for such raw honesty.As a Speech Language Therapist who sees autistic children in my practice I have an outsiders view but the pain grief despair is so valid and real Sometimes I don’t know what to do and professional doing can cause more hurt and pain at times. I know you will have moved through this as all humans do and that you are a coping brilliant Mum . Its OK to feel this is beyond you. I feel it every day in my work and then we get on with the little steps along the way and those little steps add up to life Arohanui